How To Be Less of A Martha In A Busy World and Set Your Priorities Right

Martha and Mary are two very fascinating women. Really.

They both had Jesus come to their house physically, yet had different reactions to His visit. Mary showed the right approach, while Martha showed the wrong approach. Yet, we have a lot to learn from both of them and I’m so excited to share. I pray that by the end of this post, you are filled with great passion for the secret place.

 38As Jesus and the disciples continued on their way to Jerusalem, they came to a certain village where a woman named Martha welcomed him into her home. 

39 Her sister, Mary, sat at the Lord’s feet, listening to what he taught. 

40 But Martha was distracted by the big dinner she was preparing. She came to Jesus and said, “Lord, doesn’t it seem unfair to you that my sister just sits here while I do all the work? Tell her to come and help me.”

41 But the Lord said to her, “My dear Martha, you are worried and upset over all these details!

 42 There is only one thing worth being concerned about. Mary has discovered it, and it will not be taken away from her.”   (Luke 10:38-42)


How To Be A Little Less Martha in A Martha Inclined World

First off, I want to debunk this notion that Martha was the bad sister. When we read this passage, all some people can see is that Mary is the good sister that loved Jesus while Martha isn’t. I don’t believe this one bit.

Martha was a very hospitable and caring woman. You can clearly see that she welcomed Jesus into their home. I’m guessing she was the elder of the sisters because we can see she was also very responsible. Heck, I can even understand Martha.

A whole Jesus, coming to my house???

If I did not know this story and I was in Martha’s shoes, I would not just prepare dinner and clean everywhere. I would even repaint the whole house, make all sorts of delicacies that I would serve Jesus every five minutes. When a normal visitor comes to my house, I clean up everywhere, I sweep everywhere, mop everywhere? And I’m talking about someone who may not necessarily have added value to my life.

But the Master? Jesus, the Christ in the flesh coming to my house???

Come on!!!

I even understand her frustration towards Mary at that point in time. It’s so annoying when my sister is chilling and I’m busy slaving away in the kitchen. There’s no way in the world I would ever consider it fair.

So from a humanly point of view, Martha is actually right and Mary is Lazy. Perhaps Martha wanted to make sure Jesus was properly served before talking to Him and Mary’s refusal to help just slowed things down and made her frustrated. Perhaps.

In later chapters, we would come to see how much Faith Martha had in Jesus. So no, Martha was not a bad person.

So What Was Actually Martha’s Problem??

I’ll give it to Martha, she did not just go and vent her anger anyhow, she went straight to Jesus. Let this be lesson one for you. When you are frustrated and angry, the answer is not to go around telling people of how frustrated you are. The answer is to march straight to Jesus and tell him exactly how you feel. The formula is to go to the throne before the phone, like Joyce Meyer will say.

I know, I know, it was much easier for Martha to do that because she had Jesus sitting physically in her living room? But, I tell you, Jesus isn’t any less here with you than he was in that sitting room that moment. The Holy Spirit is Jesus unlimited and once you give your life to Christ, he comes to dwell in your heart. So you have Jesus unlimited living inside of you as believer, God does not just live in your home, He lives in you!!! If you feel you can’t relate to the Holy Spirit living inside of you and you want to give your life to Jesus, click Here.

So what was really Martha’s problem?

Now that we’ve established all that about Martha, let us understand her problem. Thankfully, Jesus gave a diagnosis.

Let us look at Jesus’ diagnosis of the situation… (verse 41)

  • Martha, Martha you are worried and bothered and anxious about so many things (AMP)
  • My dear Martha, you are worried and upset about all these details (NLT)
  • Martha, my beloved Martha. Why are you upset and troubled, pulled away by all these many distractions? Are they really that important? (TPT)


And there you have it. It wasn’t that Martha was busy and only concerned with serving Jesus. It was that she was being anxious and worried. She badly wanted everything to be perfect for Jesus but then she let that become more important than being with Jesus Himself.

Boy, isn’t that the story of our lives? We love God ooo, we know we do. But life just brings its troubles and we get so anxious about everything that it affects even our relationship with God. We become too concerned about what He thinks about us, we fret because we don’t want Him to see the ugly parts of us. We want him to see the good in us and be impressed. We want to be polished for Him, and end up striving to do the polishing, instead of staying with Him and let Him do the polishing through His presence. We are too worried about what God thinks of us. Then we fall into the trap of perfectionism.

As if we could ever be perfect enough for a perfectly perfect God.

But then God doesn’t want our perfection, He wants us. Flaws and all

Really, All God wants from us is our 100% attention but we don’t seem to get that. We think running around and having a lot of activities on our itineraries will please God. And while it’s truly right and compulsory for us to serve God as believers, we should know that in our all serving, God is very concerned with our hearts towards Him.

Really, if we miss this part, then all other parts truly don’t matter. God will always check your heartivity and not your activity. If activities become more important than your heartivity, if life becomes so burdensome that you walk around worried, perplexed, troubled, such that you forget to spend time with God or you become too busy for Him. I really don’t care if you are the person leading all the prayers in your fellowship, you need to run to God. I don’t care if you are a final year student writing your final year project. You need to shut down ASAP!!! You need to run to the secret place.

God never called you to become too busy for him!

Just remember that your walk with God will always be more important than your work for Him. As much as he values service to Him and as much as you cannot rank high in the kingdom if you cannot call yourself a servant. God still wants your heart above all. Like, He can have anything in the world that He wants, but all He wants is you.

Take a look at this beautiful verse by Paul:

Yes, everything else is worthless when compared with the infinite value of knowing Christ Jesus my Lord. For his sake I have discarded everything else, counting it all as garbage, so that I could gain Christ (Philippians 3:8)

Take Some Time to Reflect and Dig Deeper,

Do you truly love God but find yourself doing a billion things for Him and never spending anytime with Him?  (Philippians 3:8)

Are you too busy with work, school, projects or the cares of this life and time goes so fast that you go for days without actually spending time with the Master? (Psalm 119:36-37, 2 Corinthians 4:18, Matthew 6:33)

Are you so worried about the billion things you have to do and you spend time worrying than spending time with God? Does Jesus’ diagnosis of Martha resonate with you? Do you need to find rest and refreshment in Him? (Matthew 11:28-30, Philippians 4:6-7, Psalm 119: 93)

Are you a victim of perfectionism?  Do you feel you have to impress God and have your life all figured out to approach Him? (Hebrews 4:15-16)


These questions are so important. I will advise you to screenshot them and take time to answer them. Be honest with yourself, no one else sees your heart except from God, you couldn’t hide the truth from Him even if you tried. Study the verses also, i believe they will guide you.

I’ll end with this,

You will be a little less Martha when you understand and truly believe that it’s not about you, your busyness, imperfections or even how much of your life you have got together. At the end of the day, it’s all about Him. You must truly understand that God wants 100% of your heart. The key to doing that is to remember that you are only a tiny part of the equation and truly, truly it’s all about him. Every other thing is worthless, compared to knowing Him, spending time with Him and being with Him. This is truly the way to set your priorities right for a deep and satisfying life in christ

I’m so excited about next week because I will be teaching you how to be More of a Mary in a Martha inclined world. We will go into the details of a secret place and how to build yours, while breaking down Mary’s role in this passage. It’s going to be so much fun. You are going to be blessed, I’ve prayed for you to hunger for God and become passionate about the secret place through this series.

Comment down below:

Do you find yourself being more of a Martha in a Martha inclined world? What will you be taking away from this blog post?


With the Love of Jesus Christ,


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  • Amarachi

    Your walk with God is far more important than your work fo him!!!!! Amarachi have you heard. Thank you so muchhhhhh!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • Hope Emah

    I learnt a lot from this blog post. Like from the part you said go to the throne before the phone by Joyce Meyer. Then when you said God needs your heartention not attention. This is beautiful❤❤❤. God bless you😘

    • scarlett

      I’m so glad you learnt a lot. That quote by Joyce Meyer has blessed me so much I just had to share. Amen and God bless you too❤

  • Wow, another great message! I needed to read this. Thank you!

  • Olivia Godwin

    I’m not sure of what to say.
    But I’ve been blessed. I know the reality of my life in Jesus but I’m often too distracted that I didn’t always go to the secret place. I didn’t always talk to him about everything. But thank you for praying me. I know my relationship with our father’s gonna get better. My eyes are so full as I type this.
    Thank you.

    With the Love of our Father,


  • Took so much from this blog post. Oh my God, this was so expository. And truly, like you said our worries shouldn’t distract us from our walk with God. He should actually be the first to know of our worries. Neither should I busy nature even in his kingdom take us farther from commenting with him. Our walk with Jesus should matter more than our work for him. Thanks so much for this 🙏🙏

  • Grace

    Scarlett!!!! Thank you so much this write up was soo refreshing and edifying. Thank you Scarlett

  • Nothing else matters aside knowing God, spending time with him and being with him.And for our sense of perfectionism, we have a Throne of grace where we can always obtain Grace for our help in time of need.

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